OUR SIMPLE CIVIL WEDDING
We have been together for seven years, engaged for three years, and of course two daughters later, here we are, finally got married!
Some things take time. God has his own perfect time. I trust Him. I trust the process. Patience is a virtue. We don’t need to rush things. Think carefully before making decisions. And above all listen to your heart.
I’m not really interested in getting married again. Don’t get me wrong but after my experience, getting divorced after only a few years of being together scares me. I just feel like being married isn’t that much of a big deal. You can still be with that person even without getting married. I always think that it’s just a piece of paper and not really that important.
Especially living in a free country where marriage is actually not a thing. People here in Finland usually get married after many years of being together. Some couples don’t get married at all. I guess it’s because of the fact that once you live in the same house and same address, in the population record you are officially together. The same income and expenses and your tax are both calculated as one family. So really getting married isn’t that of a necessity.
However, I’m also aware that in the law of God, marriage is very important. For once my daughter said, “You have two kids, I thought you were married a long time ago”? And she’s right! We should’ve gotten married way before having kids. But sometimes life has different ways of proving things. I’m such a believer in getting married first before having kids. But I cannot go back to what’s already been done.
Well, we’ve been planning on getting married since 2020, but couldn’t do that year because my sister was also planning to get married that year. So I wanted to give her that opportunity to do it first and then we do ours after theirs. But then when the pandemic came, their wedding was canceled. Once we knew they didn’t get married that year, Meu and I decided it was our turn. So we bought our wedding rings in the summer of 2020. Meu asked his parents to process his papers, which unfortunately we’ve been told by the embassy that the papers weren’t the right ones, a few days before our wedding date in December. We didn’t have time to get another paper that year so we just decided, okay maybe next time.
Until this year, Meu processed his papers again and got everything right. So we decided it’s about time. Okay, just three years later.
We both agreed we wanted a simple wedding. With just us and two witnesses, going to the magistrați and getting married. We planned on bringing the kids but decided not to last minute because we didn’t want to stress that day babysitting on our special day. So we put the kids to daycare and spent the day with just us.
I didn’t buy a wedding dress, Meu didn’t buy his suit. We used what we already had. The rings we bought three years ago. The only thing we spent money on was the bouquet which cost 55€. I thought was so expensive and if I knew the price ahead, I wouldn’t buy it. But Meu bought it without considering the price. The flowers look pretty though, so it was okay.
I did my own hair and makeup. We went in the same car. We had three witnesses, my best friend, Meu’s sister, and his best friend. The wedding ceremony took less than 10 minutes and that’s all, we are married!
After the ceremony, we parted ways. There was no reception. Meu, me and my friend, went to take some wedding photos. I’m very happy with our photos. They’re really nice and I love them so much!
After we took photos, we went home, and afterward, we went for dinner in a Nepalese restaurant. Just the three of us (plus my friend’s baby). The following weekend, we also had a dinner with just a few guests to celebrate. 10 people in total and the kids.
Overall, we were happy we finally got married. And our wedding day was special. I couldn’t ask for more. Officially Mr. and Mrs. V!
